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And, coming up in the future...
The pitch: I'm still single
The thesis: There are so many fat people in relationships, and I'm not even fat! What am I doing wrong?
Reason I won't post it: Eh, I probably will.>
That's from whateverhisnameis posting on Pamie's blog. This sets off a number of things I've been feeling. I will be whatever weight I want. It is no-one else's business. It is none of your business how much anyone weighs, or how anyone looks. You are not more deserving of things because you are not fat - also I am not obliged to fit into your idea of what people should look like. There is nothing wrong with being fat. Your opinion is irrelevant.
"I don't mean you". "You're not that fat". Oh really? Quantify 'that' for me. How long do I get to live in a safety zone, where you don't hate me for being fat, because I'm not quite fat enough to trigger whatever level you set out for "too fat". Do I have a stone or so of space? Pounds? Ounces? How about if I stay the same weight but instead of wearing clothes that "flatter" me, I wear whatever the fuck I want, and maybe I just look fatter? It doesn't matter whether or not you think you mean me - you include me in your sweeping dismissal whenever you use 'fat' as an insult, whenever you say someone should dress differently, or is in some way worthless because of their weight or size.
Also, fucking have the courage to say it. No "I'm sorry, but" or "I know I shouldn't say this, but". Come out and say the ignorant, mean things you think about fat people in the open so that I can fully understand how stupid you are and treat you accordingly. Although most of the time there's no apology, because fat people are disgusting and worthless and we should be made to feel ashamed of how we look because it offends people. I'm sick of enjoying a programme or something I'm reading and then suddenly feeling slapped when a random 'fat joke' crops up. I'm sick of me too. I don't speak up when people say such things that upset me, and I have used 'fat' as a catch all insult. I notice when I do, and I hate it.
The pitch: I'm still single
The thesis: There are so many fat people in relationships, and I'm not even fat! What am I doing wrong?
Reason I won't post it: Eh, I probably will.>
That's from whateverhisnameis posting on Pamie's blog. This sets off a number of things I've been feeling. I will be whatever weight I want. It is no-one else's business. It is none of your business how much anyone weighs, or how anyone looks. You are not more deserving of things because you are not fat - also I am not obliged to fit into your idea of what people should look like. There is nothing wrong with being fat. Your opinion is irrelevant.
"I don't mean you". "You're not that fat". Oh really? Quantify 'that' for me. How long do I get to live in a safety zone, where you don't hate me for being fat, because I'm not quite fat enough to trigger whatever level you set out for "too fat". Do I have a stone or so of space? Pounds? Ounces? How about if I stay the same weight but instead of wearing clothes that "flatter" me, I wear whatever the fuck I want, and maybe I just look fatter? It doesn't matter whether or not you think you mean me - you include me in your sweeping dismissal whenever you use 'fat' as an insult, whenever you say someone should dress differently, or is in some way worthless because of their weight or size.
Also, fucking have the courage to say it. No "I'm sorry, but" or "I know I shouldn't say this, but". Come out and say the ignorant, mean things you think about fat people in the open so that I can fully understand how stupid you are and treat you accordingly. Although most of the time there's no apology, because fat people are disgusting and worthless and we should be made to feel ashamed of how we look because it offends people. I'm sick of enjoying a programme or something I'm reading and then suddenly feeling slapped when a random 'fat joke' crops up. I'm sick of me too. I don't speak up when people say such things that upset me, and I have used 'fat' as a catch all insult. I notice when I do, and I hate it.
